Boundries

I was at a party last night that was for all intents and purposes "off the hook".
Good people good personality's good looks. The people I have spent the last year with, the production team of 24pfilms. The party was a sort of unspoken kick off to our filming year as most of the cast and crew are finally back in the city together.

Parties have a certain dynamic and for the sake of brevity, I'm not going to get into the dynamic our parties usually have. Wile everyone is doing their drinking, charming and dancing everyone is creating themselves the group of people they will spend a majority of the night with. This is not to say that it is a clique just a simple matter of a common topic for the night. Keeping in mind that it is still a party sometimes things get...heated. In this scenario everyone involved is having their moment with someone else. I, from afar, watched as one person wanted so much to be included in all the nonsense that they overexerted themselves and in turn ended all chance of exactly what they wanted.

As I watched this begin get shaky and then end with a scolding, I was thinking to myself that the amount of enthusiasm was well placed but the effort put in went way to far. In an situation if you notice any proverbial toes sticking out that you could step on, hold back and count your losses. Seeing what could have been a great night for this young stallion dashed, because he couldn't see the boundaries he was crossing was disappointing. Unfortunately it didn't stop there, he interrupted a moment I had with a wonderful beauty, and it continued until he effectively alienated himself for the night.

Now this is someone I respect as an intelligent person but it seems as though he just doesn't understand where to be at times. Sometimes an ape needs to finish the banana, and if there are no more banana's left, move on. That night I was asked what my plan was by one of the guys, my response was a simple one "I'll stay as long as I'm needed" in a setting such as a party it may be the best view to bring with you. Stay as long as you are bringing something to the environment, otherwise you don't get remembered for the good, just the drinks you knocked over or the sore toes you gave.

Don't hold that thought to the nightlife situation only, it's easier to see it quickly happen in a condensed social setting, but staying as long as your needed applies everywhere. Here is a good little movie quote that says essentially the same thing. "You either die a hero, or live long enough to see yourself become the villain." from dark knight, since I know we all respond to the wisdom of movies much faster than almost anything else. if I could say anything to this stallion now, it would be to take a breath survey the land and see if you can make a stake on the property. If not, there are other plots of land out there.

Know your boundaries, know how long your needed. It's all a matter of observation.

Now get outta here.
And watch the toes.